Dating Advice

After some communication through email and/or phone, you finally get a chance to have your first date. In order to win yourself a second or more dates, the performance of your first date is very important. Before going to your first date, be sure to read the following tips to equip yourself.

• Practice your conversation.
  Practice does make perfect. If you feel that your conversational skills are not good especially under the added pressure of a first date, then you should practice. Read the article What should I Say in my First Date? to prepare and practice what to say until you feel confident.
• Be relaxed in your first date.
  The more tense you get about a date, the more difficult you will perform well and create an interesting environment. Here are some tips to release your tension:
  • Treat your first dates as meeting your good friends whom you have not met for a very long time. So, you should show care to them and most of your topics should be around them.
  • Work on getting more first dates. The more you practice, the better you perform in your first dates. So, you will be a lot more relaxed about dating because if this date does not work out, you have a number of others that probably will.
  • Fear is an indication of a lack of confidence and preparation. So, prepare at least 5 questions and work on them that will kick start an interesting conversation.
  • Remember the fact that not all first dates can lead to second dates. If you do not get a second date even though you would like one. It could be because you two are not compatible but not because you are not a nice person or you do not perform well.
• The conversation topic should be about them.
  People love to talk about themselves and things that interest them. One of your primary goals in a first date conversation (or any dating conversation) is to let them enjoy themselves. If they are having fun with you on a date, then the chances are they will want to go out with you again. To do this, you should ask them questions they enjoy to talk about. These are some good examples:
  • What do you enjoy to do in your free time?
  • What are you most passionate about?
  • Who are your favorite film stars? What do you like about them?

In conclusion, the most important thing is that you ask questions that make them feel good and they have a fun date with you. When they have a fun date with you, it is very likely that they will want to have more dates with you.