Dating Advice

You may always try your best to attract and please your lover hoping that you guy’s fire is always on. However, you also need to pay attention to your behaviors that can douse the love fire. Listed below are the behaviors that can turn away your lover and should be avoided at all costs:

• Do not say what you mean.
  When your partner said or done something you did not like, instead of telling the truth, have you said it was fine but then you felt upset? People like to be with a person who is comfortable communicating his/her needs, wants and desires. Do not say one thing when you actually mean another. You should get into the habit of saying what you mean.
• Change your partner.
  No one wants to be controlled by others and every one likes freedom. You need to accept your partner for who he/she is. If you cannot accept, then do not date this person and date other person. The point of dating is to meet different kinds of people, find out what qualities of your ideal partner should have and then find this ideal partner. Instead of changing a person to whom you love, you need to keep looking for your special someone who may be far from perfect but whose imperfections you have no desire to change.
• Change plans often.
  Reports have found that people do not like their partners who cannot commit to their plans or constantly flake on plans. If you often pencil in your plans with a “maybe” or cancel plans at the last minute, you are giving your partner the impression that he/she is tentative in your life. Most people do not want to be temporary lovers. So, do your best to commit your plans.
• Do not play fair.
  People pay attention to whether you are playing fair. For example, when there is a disagreement, you are not being fair if you throw things in your partner’s face, hold grudges and insist on winning every argument. The dating game requires plenty of give-and-take. When you can calm down and play fair, you can not only get along well with your partner, but also leave a good impression to your partner.
• Give ultimatums.
  None of us like ultimatums. When the relationship between you and your partner is healthy and happy, ultimatums are not necessary. If you issue ultimatums, you are implying to your partner that you guys’ communication has broken down. So, ultimatum is a huge turn-off and should not be used at all.